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Friday, August 26, 2005

Posthumous Treatment: Tribute to Amanda--Part I

R.I.P. Amanda Marais Posted by Picasa

The above is a small look at how Amanda's blog looked like. I thought it would not concern me as much, but for some strange reason, it does.

I cannot help wondering that those very insightful and interesting entries she wrote when she started blogging in July would just disappear into thin air.

Anyway, I rectified that -- to an extent -- by trying to, without being too morbid, feature some of what I think is her good writing. The last entry she wrote was about fellatio. Please find it below, as well as another sex-related one about fantasies.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005


Some people asked me to spice up my blog a little. I gave it a serious thought and well, here is my first try to spice it up for my dear bloggers.

I decided to talk about oral sex. No guys, not about receiving but about giving oral sex. Fortunately, it is very easy to give a guy oral sex. Yes guys out there, it doesn’t cost us much sweat to please you. Otherwise, that’s something else :p

There is not much you need to know. Basically, put the penis in your mouth, move up and down until the desired effect (orgasm) is achieved. Still there are some things you should think about while you are giving oral sex to a guy. Very important, be careful of your teeth! Those are dangerous weapons once a penis is inside your mouth. And lucky us, a guy knows that too. So guys, think again the next time you try to shove that weenie deeper down your girl’s throat.

Second thing to keep in mind: What to do with your tongue? The tongue is a very important instrument when you are giving a guy head. Use it to stroke and massage his penis as it slips in and out, and tickle the head of his penis with it. Lick his balls, guys love that. Be creative. Guys are, on the most part, pretty perverted (no offence guys, but you are). So girls, don’t be held back by worrying a guy might think you are weird because you get a little creative.

Third tip I would like to give: Use your hands. Wet up his cock with your saliva and place your wet hand at the base of his penis, sliding it up and down to match the rhythm and direction that his penis is moving in and out of your mouth. Because most guys out there (and I know many are thinking now: how does she know!) are big porno watchers, to at least some degree, so having painted red nails is a good effect when doing this.

Last important thing I would like to talk about: The issue of ejaculation. What to do? Basically you have three options. You can swallow, spit or duck and let it fly (a very nice option). With swallowing, there isn’t much in the way of health concern because it is basically protein and water. The bad thing is that it doesn’t taste like candy. So if you don’t like the salty taste of sperm, choose option 2 or 3.

Next option is spitting. Basically he is still cumming inside your mouth and you will still taste it. But the good thing is you don’t have to swallow the slimy substance. But I think this option is pretty lame. IF you let him cum inside your mouth, you might as well swallow it down.

Last and very exciting option is duck and let it fly. This can be a lot of fun, but is also the messiest of them all. The guy may just jet his sperm onto his own stomach or cum on the girl, breasts are a popular choice (there is that porn film influence again). Or if he really fires at you, he may hit you in the eye, or get the wall or ceiling or might even hit your mother’s expensive vase which crashes on the floor after being hit by millions of sperms. It can be very interesting to see where it will end up.

Good luck to the girls out there, and feel free to let me know what option you like to choose.

posted by Amanda @ 8:45 PM 6 comments

Wednesday, July 20, 2005

Fantasy and masturbation: a perfect match?

Sexual fantasies during masturbation. Why do we have them, how creative are we, and what are we embarrassed about?

Sexual fantasies are so fantastic because you can control it all! You can do and think whatever you want inside your mind. For example: I am walking on the streets and see a nice looking fellow I walk up to him and tell him that I think he is cute. He smiles and I ask him if he wants to come with me to that nice little hotel around the corner to have some fun.

Now THAT is fantasizing. I would never do that in real life, but inside your fantasy world, you conquer yourself, you are irresistible and everything goes the way YOU want it. The idea alone, that you dare to do something like that, is a major turn-on.

The most favourite fantasies are: Sex with somebody you love. Sex with a stranger. Sex with multiple partners from the other sex. Sex with a partner from the same sex. Something you would never do in real life and last but not least: Being forced or forcing somebody to sex.

But very important is that its not because you fantasize about it, that you want it to happen in real life! A person’s fantasies are 100% safe. So why do we fantasize about forced sex? I think there are two reasons for that. One is to control our fears. Even if it is a very scary fantasy, you still control what happens and what doesn’t, who it is …etc. You are in control. The second and most important reason is the scare effect you create with your fantasy. In a scary situation, our body responses: your hear starts beating faster, the adrenaline rushes through your body. And that is exactly the same thing which happens when you get turned on sexually. By taking yourself in your fantasy in a dangerous situation, you body reacts by releasing those chemical substances to get excited.

Men more often have dominant fantasies (where they force a woman to have sex ), women on the other hand have more submissive fantasies ( the so-called rape fantasies ). Both fantasies are serving the same cause: Giving you sexual power and irresistibility.

There isn’t a real difference between male and female fantasies. But you can say that men have less fantasy as women and also quicker use the help of visual aids like porn magazines or movies or pictures while women use their fantasy to make up stories with or without themselves as the main character. But don’t understand me wrong. There are also men out there who have a huge fantasy and women without a single drop of it.

Also younger girls use more romantic fantasies. While when they get more mature, they start to fantasize ‘harder’ and more ‘realistic’ during masturbation. But there are also young girls who fantasize the most pervert fantasies and mature ladies who still fantasize about a sunset on the beach with a knight on a horse.

And that’s where we come back to where we started: fantasizing is something YOU control, nobody does it for you. You choose you decide and most important: you enjoy…

posted by Amanda @ 5:20 PM 8 comments

What do you think about the writing? Wasn't it good? That she was writing in a second language, don't you think her insights cuts across cultures?

Some food for thought...


At Tuesday, August 30, 2005 3:51:00 am , Blogger Mel said...

I think it's very sad that she died and I wish I could go and read her blog. How did you get this stuff? Did someone delete her blog?

At Tuesday, August 30, 2005 11:59:00 am , Anonymous Koala said...

Hi there,
i paid you a visit seeing your comment on my blogg.
About the end the only certainty you may have in life is that someday you will die, as anyone else. What is important is what you are doing with your life before that. The issue when you realsie it is not to go too far on the "carpe diem" dside of living by the day and forget about any consequence, and on the other side, don't give up on enjoying the day to day moments for the sake of long terms plans.
Tricky, it takes a life (or more) to succeed.

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At Tuesday, August 30, 2005 2:48:00 pm , Blogger Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

Hi Mel--thanks for linking me on your site!

I checked for a cache of her blog, and saved some of the material that was possible to save.

Koala--wise words there...

At Wednesday, August 31, 2005 2:16:00 pm , Blogger compassioNAT said...

Hi emmanuel,

Thanks for the kind comments you left on my blog. I've been so caught up with work i've not checked my blog in a long time.

How are you? Hope you've at least recovered a little from the shock of Amanda's death.

By the way, i never really got down to introducing myself..i'm 22,working as a reseach consultant.


At Wednesday, August 31, 2005 2:55:00 pm , Blogger Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

Hi again, Compassionat, you sound ever so kind...thank you for coming back...

Amanda's death was indeed a shock, even though I did not know her...Death is always like that. It helps to remind us of the futility of our tempestuous lives.

I lost my own brother, Samuel, on 8 May, 1991--a date that is forever etched in my mind. His birthday is next week--6 September. He would have been 32 years old...

He was my one and only brother, and I forever miss him. I cannot fathom how Amanda's siblings -- if she had any (what a thought!) -- would be feeling right now, but I have a small idea...

I think the biggest thing we, as bloggers, can do is to remind those who knew and those who did not know of her that she was a human being who made an immense contribution in her own small way to the blogosphere...

Am linking you right now...:-)

At Friday, September 09, 2005 1:47:00 am , Blogger Raao said...

Thank you for the kind words about my
Again I wish to
thank you for
posting what you
have of Amanda's Blog.
I regret not coping
her blog. I remember
one comment I left
ended: "Now I can

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