Here's to you Mrs.Robinson: Older Women

It is an article of most healthy and mature relationships for the guys to be older than the women, even if by one year.

In 2003, I met, and subsequently slept -- in what would prove to be my loss of virginity – with a woman who was fifteen months my senior. She was great in bed, a fantastic personality, but bad for being part of my future indefinitely. We broke up about six months later, due to differences that were putting a strain on both of us, but not before many steamy and secretive sessions of afternoon copulation—both in her abode and, initially, a gym!

Off late, I have been attracted to three women who are older than me. The first is my next-door neighbour, who is around her mid-late thirties. She has a kid, but is, frankly, gorgeous in that slim and slender body of hers. She noticed I had been away from the country, and acknowledged this over the weekend.

"Welcome back" she said, with a smile, slightly waving.

"Thankyou" I said, contemporaneously thinking "if only you knew what I’d love to do with you!".

Bad, bad…

The second is someone who works in Geneva, whom I met in Tunis, but made several abortive attempts to have dinner with her; she just didn’t have the time as she was travelling in a group. The last day, which was fine, proved too difficult, and I gave up. We are keeping in touch, but I made the mistake of telling her my age – she is four years older than me – earlier when we first met, so I doubt she is going to entertain anything more than friendship with me, which is okay…

Finally, the third is a teacher whom I met en route back to Accra. She is lovely. My heart is almost palpitating just thinking of her... She has such a beautiful smile, and that’s what first attracted me to her. She is so youthful-looking, but I understand she’s a couple of years older than me. This is what my colleague keeps telling me.

On the plane back home, she was sitting all alone, with the aisle window. I kept on stealing glances her direction, and when our eyes met a couple of times, she would instinctively offer a warm smile. Oh, what a smile to melt the bones! I have never met any woman with such an endearing and warm smile. Not to mention the fact that she’s a bit of a looker, too! Wow…

Now, we’re having lunch next week, near where she works. It’s a purely platonic thing, but my mind is saying something – never mind hoping for something -- else. I don’t particularly like treading on dangerous grounds, neither do I like having lunch with very attractive women who are very much…married.

But, this will prove to be a great test of character. I am not a Don Juan by any stretch of the imagination, so I am not about to cause any break-ups anywhere! I am curious, though, as to where this phase is coming from. I have always, to some small extent, found older women attractive—though not to the point of initiating relationships with them, but this offbeat feeling towards the opposite sex is serious.

Maybe being single again causes you to re-focus energies on hormones, as well as usurp common sense or something? Do tell me, please…